"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

Doesn't it feel great when someone pays you a compliment? Did you ever have one of those days when things weren't going well and you wished you could get back in bed, cover up your head, and not have to see or speak to anyone? You must go out even though you don't want to. You're feeling gloomy and don't know how you're going to make it through the day...then, out of nowhere...a perfect stranger pays you a compliment and suddenly it's a brand-new day and a whole new world.

How can so little mean so much? Usually, it's because you are down on yourself and can't think of anything nice, good, or acceptable about yourself. Out of nowhere comes a perfect stranger or someone you hardly know and tells you something really good about yourself...wow!

Why didn't you tell yourself something good about you? Probably you couldn't because, in that state of mind, you wouldn't have believed anything good about yourself, from yourself. It is easier for us to believe nice things that others tell us about us than the things we tell ourselves.

For right now I have a secret for you. Think about how good a sincere compliment makes you feel when you're down and gloomy. Next time you find yourself with a bad case of the doldrums, don't wait for someone else to cheer you up. You go pay a compliment to someone who looks as though they could use it. Doing so will make you feel even better than you felt when you received a compliment. Here's the secret: When you're having a bad day and are feeling gloomy, pay compliments to as many others as you can and watch them light up. Sometimes you can even see their physiology change as they begin to smile inside. You do it for them, but you receive an equal or greater reward.

Have a great month everyone…

Dr D Rodger ND, MBA